For lots of people, when a relationship ends, it mechanically turns into a closed chapter. There is no such thing as a turning again. In actual fact, some individuals instantly block their ex-lover on all social media platforms, delete their cellphone numbers and something that’ll remind them of the connection.
It doesn’t finish there, many individuals are starting to undertake the ‘biko biko, I don’t know you‘ act. Don’t know what which means? Oya hear the gist.
Have you ever ever dated somebody that once you look again now, you surprise should you have been blind or dumb? Effectively, it occurs. Generally – for individuals who are nonetheless following their ex-lover on social media – your ‘ex’ will simply give one ‘scorching take’and also you’ll open your mouth, questioning the way you ever dated somebody so dumb. What have been you considering?!
It’s for this identical motive that when some individuals see their ex – particularly if the particular person is sagging or sporting colour-blocking, they’ll simply throw their face one kain or abruptly deal with their cellphone.
For some individuals, na straight up denial:
Ex: Hey love, it’s so good to see you, it’s been so lengthy. I actually miss you.
You: Excuse me please, do I do know you?
This factor can ache o, so that you higher assume nicely earlier than you do it, or kukuma don’t do it in any respect. Simply say “hello” and preserve going.
On the flip aspect, many individuals have ended up collectively years after they broke up with one another. In any case, individuals at all times say that “na previous firewood dey burn go“.
Earlier than you say “God forbid”, consider why you broke up along with your ex. Was he/she imply? Abusive? Manipulative? Violent? Lazy? There are some folks that you possibly can by no means return to, even when he/she is the final human on earth. You’ll want to stay single. That’s as a result of when you dated, they have been extraordinarily poisonous and that relationship broke you in some ways.
However there are different ‘exes’ that their very own firewood can nonetheless catch should you mild a match stick, particularly if the circumstances surrounding the breakup was out of your management and the particular person has developed by the years.
If the breakup was as a result of timing or circumstances
Aminu needed to get married within the subsequent one 12 months and Farida knew she wasn’t prepared. After stalling for a very long time, she opened up and instructed him that though she cherished him deeply, she wasn’t prepared for marriage. That needed to go their separate methods. Aminu was so harm, however he was the primary born, his dad and mom have been previous and his household was pressuring him to get married.
four years later, Aminu and Farida met at an occasion – each of them nonetheless single. Nonetheless in love, they rekindled their relationship.
Generally, stress from household, lengthy distance, future plans and desires can break up a relationship. In lots of circumstances, when one get together travels overseas to check, it brings an finish to a ‘flourishing’ relationship. This type of relationship may be revitalized.
If it was as a result of if faith or tribe
Zainab cherished James and she or he knew her dad and mom won’t ever consent to the wedding. But, she went forward with the connection. Love triumphs, proper? However on this case, faith was positioned above love. Zainab’s dad and mom completely rejected James and even threatened to disown her. This introduced some points into their relationship and so they needed to cut up up.
The identical factor for Ada whose dad and mom insisted that as the primary daughter, she should marry somebody from their tribe.
The humorous factor about love is that irrespective of how suppressed it’s, it has a means of rearing its head once you meet somebody you have been as soon as a lot in love with.
Each of you could have ‘grown’ and developed
Tade and Bukunmi dated from their secondary faculty till they have been each in 100 degree within the college. After their first 12 months, they cut up as a result of they only appeared to love various things and weren’t appropriate.
9 years later and they’re again collectively.
There may be nothing mistaken with going again to your ex. It would solely be mistaken when your ex was abusive and the connection was poisonous. You’ll be disrespecting your self and doing your self a number of disservice should you rekindle a relationship with an individual who has, again and again, disrespected and humiliated you in any form or kind – even within the littlest means. It would finish in tears laslas.
If that isn’t the case and the earlier relationship ended as a result of sure circumstances outdoors your management, then, by all means, go forward. Let this previous firewood catch hearth.
However on the identical time, it is advisable watch out. In case your relationship ended as a result of your accomplice’s members of the family loathed you, you may need to discover out in the event that they’ve modified their minds about you earlier than you dip your head into the connection. Some issues don’t change and it’s higher to be protected than sorry.
In case you are additionally going again to your ex since you are getting ‘previous’ and your dad and mom are asking you to convey a husband/spouse residence, then you definitely’ll be making the identical mistake over again.
You need to solely return to your ex as a result of these butterflies dancing in your stomach haven’t died and also you’re each certain you might be greatest for one another. You’ve each discovered, unlearned, relearned and are prepared to start out the ‘endlessly journey’ collectively.
So guys, whose ‘previous firewood’ has caught hearth lately? Have you ever ever rekindled your relationship along with your ex? How did that work out for you?