I hate partaking in conversations like this, however till this prevalent state of affairs stops being acceptable, we should maintain speaking about it within the hope that adjustments will occur.
Cooking is a chore. Attempting to sweeten it and make it appear to be a service to the household doesn’t take away the truth that it’s a job that takes (principally) hours to finish – hours that may be channeled into doing extra productive duties.
It’s shameful that we’re nonetheless discussing gender roles in relation to cooking in 2020. It appears these Nigerian ‘kings’ nonetheless have their heads within the clouds. All people is speaking about extra productive and life-changing points and you’re nervous that cooking will emancipate you.
There’s solely a lot a lady can do. We’re combating for equality and there’s being a shift in our cultural norms with ladies contributing extensively to family bills. Now, we have to deal with getting males to make the shift to the kitchen and different components of the family.
lady’s self-worth and worth is essentially hinged on her means to find out the amount of salt so as to add to a pot of soup is disgraceful. In our society, 70% of ‘spouse materials’ is measured by what number of pots of soup a lady can prepare dinner throughout the area of some hours and the way she will be able to efficiently multitask home chores. In 2020! Tueh! Disgraceful lot!
A lady could be a profitable businesswoman or a excessive flying profession lady, she might be uber-intelligent and intensely good however on this society, if she can’t prepare dinner and handle the family, all her achievements equate to naught.
I’ve all the time maintained that you do not want a vagina to prepare dinner, the center a part of your anatomy isn’t a gate move to the kitchen. Ladies wouldn’t have to be the cooks in the home, you didn’t know? You’re welcome.
Besides cooking is a passion, I feel it’s an absolute waste of worthwhile time, particularly for ladies who work hours to pay the payments.
Allow us to equate this factor, if males imagine cooking is abominable to their gender, ladies should additionally begin to see contributing financially to the family as a deprivation of their cultural rights. If we wish to act like we’re in 1840, allow us to all act accordingly.
What’s the massive deal in cooking meals that you’ll eat?
The opposite day, I noticed a lady thanking her husband profusely for ‘serving to her’ carry their baby. A toddler that he helped make. A toddler that solutions his identify. He carried his baby and you’re thanking him?! What number of occasions has he thanked you for carrying your baby?
Think about how unusual it will likely be if you happen to stroll into a median Nigerian dwelling and see the person within the kitchen cooking, bizarre abi? Now, think about how unusual it was at first when ladies took cost of the monetary tasks at dwelling. It isn’t so unusual anymore as a result of we’ve grown to get used to it, we’ve adjusted our mindset to the fact that’s what we should additionally do on this case. We should additionally get used to the truth that males ought to prepare dinner of their houses.
A ‘poor’ and uneducated household – by layman requirements – might even be excused from this rule as a result of they’re on the grassroots of society. Their ideas and mindset have been enshrined with societal values and these adjustments are exhausting to implement in them. However what about you? Nicely-travelled alpha male? With all of the stamps in your passport, you continue to have the mentality of the caveman.
Cooking isn’t Valentine’s day deal with. It’s not a Christmas day particular. It isn’t a birthday reward (how are you going to even use meals you cooked as a birthday reward? Na wa!) It’s one thing ladies do every single day, man up and get your self into the kitchen.
The folks simply misled by narratives like this are Millenials, most Gen Xers have all this found out. However hear: pricey millennial, cooking doesn’t make you an distinctive lady and the abdomen isn’t the way in which to anyone’s coronary heart.
Belief the ‘matriarchs of patriarchy’ to shortly leap on this chance and present themselves as ‘fortunately married’ as a result of they prepare dinner, lol, it nonetheless doesn’t make you higher than ladies who’ve chosen a special path.
The vagina doesn’t include a cooking and home chores handbook, neither does the penis include a breadwinner stamp – all gender roles are fluid. If you wish to eat, prepare dinner. If you wish to spend, earn. Cabish?